First world problems, eh? I’m stressed about taking the GRE (Graduate Records Examination), which I’ll be doing Wednesday. I just started studying today. I hate myself and my lack of preparation. I’m filled with loathing and want to cut. I feel the need to punish myself for being so awful. No one else sees this; I don’t talk about my self-loathing. I’m so fat. I hate this. I’m at a medically healthy weight, but toward the heavier range. I hate over 2,000 calories today and didn’t purge. I’ve binged/purged the last 4 days in a row. It’s awful and I hate it.
I temporarily encountered a bulimic’s worst nightmare yesterday: the inability to purge. I binged and employed my usually method of trying to induce vomiting. Actually, at the moment I really want to b/p. I’m trying not to because I don’t want to lose an hour or two of my life. I’ve lost so much of my life already to this eating disorder. It’s been three months that this relapse has been going on, so I now fit the DSM-5’s [semi-arbitrary] criteria for bulimia. Hooray. I should throw a party. Anyway, back to yesterday: it was terrifying.
Frick, I can’t even focus enough to finish telling that story. I need to binge. The urge is almost overwhelming. What can I do? I want to ask a friend to come to where I am so I don’t do it, but that would be such an inconvenience for them. Plus, they’re not authorized to be in the area in which I’ll be working. (Sounds fancy, right? I do research in a genomics lab that requires basic biohazard training. We allow untrained people in there under supervision, but I don’t have the authorization to do that. Not that anyone else will be there this time of night so I could get away with it, but I don’t want to risk getting caught.)
Again…yesterday. I tried to purge for about 10 minutes and nothing but some reflux was coming up. I then drank several cups of water, waited about 20 minutes, then tried again. This time it was successful.
I’m trying to convince myself not to purge by looking at all the negative consequences, but my irrational, stupid, disordered thought processes are overwhelming my same, rational, logical mind.
I hate this mental dichotomy in which I exist; it’s tearing me apart.
Negatives: damaged teeth, lost time, swollen salivary glands, puffy eyes, red face, looking like a mess and having to cover it up with makeup, damaged esophagus, reflux after eating, fatigue, digestive issues, unbalanced electrolytes leading to dizziness and other symptoms, pain while vomiting, fluid retention.
Pros: temporarily numbs my emotions, prevents weight gain
I’ve been cutting more frequently. It’s not working like it used to. It used to give me clarity and allow me to focus. Maybe it’s because I’m not doing it in my arms; that used to work the best. I miss it. My hips just aren’t the same.
I’m still upset about my intake today. I actually want to just go get wasted rIgot now. I want to withdraw from life. Why am I doing this to myself? I’m sick of college, but I’m applying to grad schools. Why? I don’t feel like anything will satisfy me in life. I can’t think of any career I would be happy pursuing.
I still get pleasure out of recreational activities, but I am so very sick of school. I know my thoughts are a bit disjointed right now: this is the disordered thinking of an unhealthy mind.
I went to Overeaters Anonymous last Saturday (not yesterday) for the first time. That group was scary and full of unhealthy messages. One woman talked about how she was a “good anorexic.” She’s at lest 60 lbs overweight right now. Apparently all she’s eating right now is 3 gummy worms and 3 yogurts per day. She talked about her low weight several times (105 lbs) and didn’t seem intent on bettering her behavior. And she called herself a sponsor. Yeah right. She also seemed to have a weird relationship with one of the men there (who wan’t her husband). She’s the contact person for the group, so she’d be there at (probably) every meeting. She dominated the meeting. It was awful. I tried a different group on Thursday, and that group seemed much, much healthier. I plan to attend their next meeting.
Man…I’m so unstable right now. I want to cry. I want to cut. I want to purge. I want to drink. I want to get high.
I’ve never done any illegal drugs besides nitrous oxide, but that hardly counts…hmm, now I want some…enough to pass out. Now I’m thinking about suicide. That’d be nice. No, it wouldn’t. I don’t want to die; I just want my disordered thinking and behaviors to die. I want to kill a part of me. I still want some nitrous.
I bet if my mom read this she’s break down and cry. She thinks I’m doing so much better than I have been in the part. I borked down Friday morning and, sometime during the hour in which I was crying, she asked if I’d been self-harming again. I nodded and told her that it wasn’t as severe as it used to be (it’s not…yet). I don’t know how much longer I can do this.
I’ve just been spilling out my thoughts. I wish I could record all of them, but I can’t type that quickly.
Would they have me committed if they read this? I don’t know who “they” are…doctors? Counsellors? Professors? Almost anyone?
I am 100% at risk of hurting myself. Not killing myself, just non-lethally injuring myself. I still slap and/or hit myself on an almost daily basis. Probably daily. I used a chain a few days ago. That helped a bit. Maybe better than cutting, actually.
Huh. I was really, really hoping that writing this would take away the urge to binge. It hasn’t. Now I’ve wasted 45 minutes. I could have b/p’d by now. Then it’d probably be off my mind.
Why am I not stronger than this eating disorder?
Maybe my lack of sleep has something to do with this.
I want to have sex. I’ve never done I before, but I feel like making bad life decisions now. I want to go get addicted to some drug and just sleep around. I want to be as awful as I feel.
No, I don’t. I really don’t.
Wow, I just realized how awfully judgmental that paragraph was. Junkies and promiscuous people have value as human beings. It hurts me to think of what drug addicts have to deal with. I want to help them. I bet it’d be about as frustrating as dealing with people with eating disorders. Disordered thinking, addicting, cravings, self-injurious behaviors and choices…
I don’t know where Imm going with this post. I’m just trying to save me from myself.
I’m going to go do lab work now. I guess. Whatever. I’m such a spoiled, self-focused person. Why am I so repetitively awful? I should make this post private; no one else needs to hear my pitiful self-hatred. Maybe…maybe my ramblings can help someone else because they realize they’re not alone in the way they’re thinking/feeling. Maybe it can help them hate themselves just a little bit less. Maybe.
Update (17 mins post-publishing): Binged. Time to purge.